Turning a hookup or fuck buddy into a real serious thing is not something that we recommend here at BuddyBang. However, it does happen. It can be awesome when it works out, but chances are that if your guy is a pro at being a fuck buddy, then he’s got more than one side chick he needs to let go of before you can take him seriously. We certainly don’t consider fuck buddy relationships to be anything to be taken emotionally seriously, but sometimes that’s just how the cookie crumbles. Sometimes, fuck buddy relationships are merely side relationships and rarely lead to the real thing. And, if you are that side chick turned real chick, you’re going to want to make sure that your man is over his ex. Here’s how you can tell for sure.
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It might seem strange, but if your new fuckbuddy turned boyfriend cheers on his ex, it’s pretty evident that he is no longer mentally tied to her. It’s so much better than cheering for her losses. Why? Well, let’s consider the example that your fuck buddy beau finds out, through social media, that his ex is hooking up with someone else. If your boy gets angry about it, that would be a super bad sign. However, if your boyfriend is happy for her, or (even better) indifferent towards the situation, you can hold onto the fact that he doesn’t harbor feelings for her, good or bad.
Your guy should barely, if ever, talk about his ex to you. Now, if the guy brings her up in situations that are reasonable (such as when something naturally reminds him of her), it’s not a big deal. However, if your fuck buddy turned boyfriend is constantly talking about the girl, that’s a huge red flag. It’s a way for him to keep her around, even if just in conversation, and it’s not ok, and he’s probably using you to get over her.
Your boy shouldn’t be connected to his ex in any way. If he has totally cut the chord on social media or otherwise, you can take comfort in the fact that he’s over her. If he still is following her Instagram or speaks to her family on a regular basis, that’s no bueno. Again, it’s a way to keep her around.
At the end of the day, if he was serious with someone and simultaneously was having a fuck buddy relationship with you, the relationship was already on the rocks. However, now that you two are serious, his hookup tendencies are going to be something you’ll want to keep your eye on!